Spirituality: Secure Attachment to Reality
This article connects spiritual development with attachment theory, proposing that spirituality is essentially about forming a secure attachment to reality itself. Just as children develop attachment patterns with caregivers, we develop similar patterns with existence. Secure attachment means feeling safe to experience whatever arises, trusting reality's reliability, and returning to a sense of basic okayness even in difficulty, knowing we are loved. Insecure attachment can lead to using spiritual practices as self-validation or escapism. The author argues that healing hinges on establishing safety, which precedes growth. By building secure attachment to reality, we open ourselves to vulnerability and achieve genuine transformation.
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